The Little Black Book Connection Self-Test

By Melissa Miranda

If asked whether I knew enough high-powered people to support my career path, I’m sure I would have answered with a resounding, yes! After answering the 15 questions in the Connection Self-Test, however, my fears around networking became painfully clear. I scored a mere 37. Surprising since I know and/or have connections with numerous people in prominent positions in the healthcare industry, the RI Department of Health, the RI Department of Labor and Training, the RI Department of Education, and even the Lt. Governor’s office. Why then, would I score so low?

Having the courage to connect is a challenge for me. Having the desire to connect is also a barrier. Being unprepared is rarely a real issue, but, the fear of the unknown doesn’t allow me to ever feel well prepared. The fear of rejection also resonates with me. It is hard for me to share ideas because I am afraid they are not good enough or will seem simple or silly to others. Lastly, and most importantly, I am aware that I have a limited self-image. I have been told this by mentors over the years. Being aware has helped me take small steps to improve the way I view myself and the value I bring.

Although I wish it weren’t so, the results of the Connection Self-Test were right on. It is time to focus on small changes to gain the courage to connect.